6009 Views

6009+removed

My Match profile hit a milestone today. Six thousand women have viewed me. To be precise, six thousand and nine. Hitting the milestone made me decide to look at the profiles of the women who have viewed me most recently, pushing me past this milestone.

In one profile, S describes what she’s looking for with the following:
“I’d like a LTR with a kind considerate affectionate communicative gentleman.”
I find this interesting. I think everyone is looking for something like that. Of course, S and I are not a match. This made me wonder why we are all looking for the same thing, but none of us are compatible with one another.

I had blocked S’s profile earlier today, but I didn’t remember why. Since her profile is blocked from search, I was unable to go back and look at it. If I wanted to remember why I blocked her, I would have to page through all the profiles that I blocked, all 6,461 of them, find hers, and unblock it, so I could read it again. So of course, this is what I did. Luckily, they are sorted by profile name. Otherwise, it would have been a very difficult task. I found S’s name on the 55th page of my blocked profiles and promptly unblocked it.

OK, now I remember. She earns $150,000+ a year in her job as a lawyer. That’s the highest category, so it could be much more than $150,000. I am not in that category! She subscribes to two premium channels–both Showtime and HBO–and has a personal trainer. I remember how I felt when I first read her profile, because I began to feel that way again. I felt like she was above my paygrade. She would have a lifestyle and expectations that I would not be able to fulfill. I just wouldn’t be able to keep up with her financially. And I wouldn’t only have to keep up with her and pay my share of her lifestyle. I’d be expected to pay for it all. Because that’s the way it is.

Here is another one who made it easy for me to block her profile:
“If you are under 45, shorter than 5’11”, live farther than 50 miles away, and/or not in shape, I will NOT RESPOND and I WILL block you….no offense!”
No offense taken, and thanks for making my job easier.

The most recent woman who looked at my profile is D. She looked at my profile today, and she actually sent me a message. Her message was one of the best I’ve received. She mentioned things she liked in my profile, her words had a conversational tone to them, and she seemed very likable. But, she lives in San Diego, which is about ninety miles away from me, well beyond my range. In her own profile, she says she is looking for someone “within 0 miles of San Diego”. I’m not joking. I sent her a nice reply thanking her for the thoughtful message and wishing her luck in her search.

The next one who looked at me is C from Sherman Oaks. Sherman Oaks is in the San Fernando valley, about 70 miles from where I live. And her profile header says she’s looking for someone “within 30 miles of Sherman Oaks”. Another easy one to block.

Next was Ch from Berkeley. Berkeley is 422 miles away! And she’s “seeking men 60 – 80 within 50 miles of Berkeley”. This is discouraging.

When I was looking through my blocked profiles to find S the lawyer, I saw that there is a limit on how many profiles one can block from search on Match, and that limit is 10,000 removed profiles. Look for another blog post when I hit that auspicious milestone!

Epilog

If you are wanting to slap me hard for blocking S the lawyer, don’t despair. I reconsidered after re-reading her profile, and I sent her a message. Under what she is looking for, she included all income categories from $35,001-$50,000 all the way up to to highest $150,000+. So perhaps her expectations are not as bad as I feared.

How did all of you spend your 4th of July?

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5 thoughts on “6009 Views

  1. Oy these women. I recently read a book called “Marry Him,” which I highly recommend to men and women, about how women (and men) nitpick themselves right out of the marriage pool (Must be 5’11”, must like dogs, must be the most amazing man ever because I deserve it). This just reinforces that insane way of trying to find a match rather than looking for shared values and life goals.

    It’s always nice when people write good messages. You never know… I have a friend in Cerritos who found a partner in San Diego (on JDate) and they are making it work. Carlsbad is a nice place in the middle to meet 😉

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    1. That’s so funny. When I tried to find matches on dating sites, my best ones seemed to be in Los Angeles, but those guys didn’t want to date outside of L.A., and usually they specified areas of L.A., such as the Westside only. Oh well.

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  2. Funny – my profile has over 6000 views as well. The ones I hate are the women that will “like” a picture or two, and then not respond to a message? WTF?

    I had one the other day – I sent her a message, and she almost instantly made me one of her favorites. Cool! I thought – but then she never responded? I know how to send good messages – been on over 80~ dates.

    One this morning liked a pic of mine, so I sent her a note – she replied that online dating isn’t for her and wished me luck – What?

    I think its just summer syndrome – people have better things to do than go on awkward dates all the time. Last summer was just as weird from what I can remember.

    I get a laugh out of the profiles that have along list of silly demands – those ones get insta blocked. They live in a fantasy land and will be single forever…

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